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10 of 11 found the following review helpful:
 This book could ruin your dating life Nov 13, 2011
By Kåre Fog
The author does not reveal her real name, which I dislike. Why is she not open and honest here?
At first, you think that this book is a part of the pick up artist scene. We hear that the author serves as a `wing girl', and she recommends that you read Neil Straus's `The game'. But this is a smokescreen. Actually, the book is about how a well-meaning woman thinks that a nice young man should ideally behave.
She writes (p. 193) that if you follow the advice in the book, you will be a winner. "You won't regret it."
I think that if you follow the advice in the book, you WILL regret it. The book is said to be based on experience, but I doubt it. It seems much more based on the author's idealistic ideas about how the world should be, rather than how the world actually is. We hear that women appreciate such things as initiative, consideration and sincerity. Which, of course, sounds sympathetic. But will the considerate and sincere boy really get the girl? In the author's idealistic universe, yes. In this universe, the boy is a nice guy who loves his mom and reads the bible, and who is not aiming at immediate sex, but only a long term relationship. He honors the gender that carries mankind in its belly for nine months per soul, and he acknowledges that one in every three women has been sexually abused by the age of 18. Therefore, he avoids to frighten the girl by touching her, and he definitely does not go for sex at the first date. Instead he attempts to connect at a deep level and only thinks of a relationship after he has checked that she will be a good partner. And it is suggested to buy flowers for the girl to give her on the first date.
In the author's opinion, it is good to start out being friends and believe that pure friendship can lead to romance - preferably with a woman you know well from your work or your close friends. The boy should be aware that a woman's beauty is only an asset on a short term. The author writes: "Go beyond a woman's first impression, and get to know her from the inside. . . . If you're not connecting well, don't assume there will never be chemistry. It's possible that you haven't found a common interest that will connect you two . . . Even if you and your date don't feel a spark, don't just give up on the relationship. Be friends for the time being . . . " So it is recommended that you go on with the dating, that you persist, even if there is no spark at all.
Such advice is disastrous. It could ruin your dating life.
As an antidote against this, I suggest that you search the concept "ladder theory" on the internet. You will get more useful advice from reading a few pages on the ladder theory than on reading all about Jungian personality types in the book here - a subject which is treated more thoroughly elsewhere anyway.
Some reviewers claim that the book is well researched. I don't agree. Much of what I have cited above is postulated without any kind of evidence to back it up.
I regret that I bought the book.
5 of 5 found the following review helpful:
 Perfect Dating Advice Jul 22, 2009
By Liberty Moonbeam
Finally a "how to" dating book that gets it right. Not only does this book give great dating advice, it is also a fun read. Take it with you to the poolside, the beach or the airport for some humorous stories on what works and what does not work in the complicated world of dating.
The book is aimed towards men, but I am a woman and I found it useful to decode and debunk the games guys play. Women, arm yourselves with this book before you go out with him!
5 of 6 found the following review helpful:
 Good Book, Lousy Title... Mar 31, 2010
By James 91710
With a title like, "Alpha Dog, Get the Bitch You Want" by Wing Girl Kim, you might expect something straight outta da Pickup Artist Playa's Society field manual. An that's unfortunate because this book is nothing like that. Which means a lot of people are either going to miss out on its wisdom due to the title, or end up buying it thinking it's about pickup and seduction and being dissapointed.
In a nutshell, Wing Girl Kim uses the analogy of a wild dog pack to illustrate certain principles of pickup and attraction along with the typical, more traditional dating advice you would expect from a woman giving advice to a guy, such as treating women with sincerity, respect and chivalry, impressing her, not choosing a women based on her looks, avoiding same night lays, one-night stands, etc. Definitely not Mystery, Neil Strauss, or Paul Janka...but she does provide some helpful and unique dating advice and even quotes from Christian authors and the Bible a couple times.
Where the book falls short is the amount of space she devotes to personality types and Jungian psychology which adds nothing to the book except excess bulk. Instead of five plus chapters, a simple one chapter summary or overview could have gotten the point across just fine. It's almost as if she felt compelled to dazzle us with her scholarly research...in fact, she admits as much saying, "Maybe I'm getting too psychobabbly here, but that's what happens when you read all sorts of scholarly literature."
All in all, this is a good entry level guide for the nice-guy wanting to get his feet wet with women, or the older guy who's found himself single after a long term relationship. This probably won't appeal to pickup artists and players so if that's your style, you might as well go straight to Mystery's "The Pickup Artist" or Tariq Nasheed's "The Art of Mackin".
5 of 6 found the following review helpful:
solid, sound and a good reminder of what our dads taught us Sep 03, 2009
By Jason Mckay
Good stuff in a nutshell. We should know this stuff. We've heard a lot of this (without the good explanations) before. But we need it still. The Pickup Artist community is doing very well serving a need for a certain audience but this book serves all of us, whether we need help finding someone, finding out what we want in someone, or just serving as a reminder of what being a man is. When the tricks, lines and approaches are done, who and what do you want to be? This book lays it out in a way that we guys can get and from a woman's perspective so we know we're not hearing just another theory on getting girls. This book will not just help you in finding, getting and keeping the bitch you want. It's about being a grown-up. Being a man.
2 of 2 found the following review helpful:
Superlative! Jan 06, 2011
By Screagler
To paraphrase Wing Girl Kim, this book is for the sincere guy who is looking for a great woman. This is a far cry from the pick up books that are essentially manuals on manipulation. Say this... if she does this, then rock like you're going to leave... raise an eyebrow... look away... don't give her any attention, neg hit bla... bla... bla... maybe you'll get sex after your little magic show. Books like that seem almost sleazy. I think guys tend to over-complicating meeting women. Alpha Dog is aptly titled. You don't need a manual full of lines and techniques. You need to learn to be a strong, perceptive man who takes the initiative. If that is something you are striving for, here is your book. It's written from a woman's perspective, but it's not the typical womanly advice like... be yourself or be funny. Kim realizes that we need hints in a big way and a foot in the ass. The supporting details and studies are well laid out. The chapters are succinct and full of useful information. I love this book because the fluff factor is minimal. I want more guys to know about the book... but then again I don't... more competition. Solid read, should be one of the first books a guy reads when he is trying to get himself together. I'm going to purchase a hard copy as well to keep for my son one day. Bravo!
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