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2 of 2 found the following review helpful:
I loved this book! Feb 06, 2008
By Interested Consumer
There is something for everyone in this self-help book, which concisely describes the relationship of current difficulties to childhood events. It gives simple, straightforward advice of how to understand our past and change our present. It is fascinating to read about the different "houses," or common childrearing patterns. This book not only helped me to understand my own childhood, but how my parenting impacts my own children. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand more about himself/herself, make positive life changes, and/or be a better parent.
2 of 2 found the following review helpful:
A Most Excellent Self Help Book Jan 31, 2008
By Phillip Franklin
Simply stated this is the best self-help book I have ever read. Dr. Dreyfus presents the topic in a most organized in a most logical approach. Her method of explaining her ideas is no less than genius. She explains that we as individuals learn our particular behavior patterns based upon the household in which we were raised. Thus our individual behavior is learned. She points out that we learn how to treat others pretty much as we were treated by our families and parents. And she points out that it is this interactive learned behavior we carry on for the rest of our life.
Dr. Dreyfus breaks down 12 distant households of interpersonal behavior scenarios. What is unique is that she then proceeds to describe not only the tendencies of the behavioral patterns learned in these distinct households, she offers workbook questions of how we can overcome some of our learned weakness in our interpersonal behavioral patterns. Her approach is compared to that of someone who has bought or owns a house, which needs work and wants to improve it. Thus that is where she gets the name for the book. But like different houses that need various and different types of upgrading over years she talks about households that obviously need to be examined and improved if one is improve or bring happiness to their life.
It's obvious that Dr. Dreyfus did not just copy other textbooks or other self-help books for her unique approach. One can quickly conclude that she basis her approach on her many years of practice as a gifted double board certified psychiatrist. There is a very warm but direct approach in the way she describes the twelve different households, which almost all of us can relate. Even though I quickly was able to find the critical household in which I grew up I found it most interesting to read about the other eleven households Dr. Dreyfus describes. Maybe there is a feeling of comfort in that my household was not as bad as others or I am now able to appreciate and better understand why people treat me and act the way they do.
Most importantly I am now able to at least understand my own behavioral patterns much better than ever. I now know that much of my behavior was simply learned at an early age, and I had no idea how some of what I learned has been so difficult for me to overcome. It seems if we can't identify a problem we have no chance of resolving it. And even if I can't easily un-learn some of my unhealthy behavior at least I am able to understand it and come to terms with it. And I guess that is the best one can expect.
Having knowledge is really the key to happiness. Some say ignorance is bliss. But that has never worked for me. Personally I feel that the more I can learn about myself the more self-confident I can become and the more challenges I take on and the more I grow to really like the person I can become. And in the end I think that is the key to finding some happiness. This little one hundred-page book has brought a great deal of knowledge into my life about human behavior and psychology. I know I got more help from just reading these pages than I would ever get form actually visiting a psychiatrist. So if you want to find a really good general self help psychology book you simply can't go wrong with Flip this life by Eve Dreyfus, M.D. I very highly recommend it.
1 of 1 found the following review helpful:
Home Improvement For The Mind Apr 18, 2008
By Mark L. Schuster
This is a wonderful little book, simply written, that provides the reader with a blueprint that helps to explain why we may often find ourselves acting in an unhealthy or self-destructive manner.
Building upon a family systems approach, Dr. Dreyfus examines and explains how our early family experiences (our 'family of origin') helps create within each of us our differing styles of communicating, structuring relationships, dealing with conflict, managing intimacy, etc.
The author does a remarkable job of taking rather complex psychological processes, and distills them into an easily understood language, with many clear behavioral examples. She even provides a 'workbook' at the end of each chapter that encourages and guides the reader through self-examination.
So, if you find yourself repeating unhealthy patterns, engaging in self-destructive behaviors, or simply feel 'stuck' in your life, then you might find this book to be a valuable tool that will begin to help you 'clean house'.
Impactful insight for anyone focused on improving the quality of their relationships Apr 07, 2008
By Sunny SD
I have read this book a few times and each time, took something new away from the expertise of Dr. Dreyfus. Not only has her book shown me the impact of my upbringing, and how I will likely parent unless I make changes now, it also taught me about some of the traits and baggage I bring to the table in my relationships, as a result of my upbringing. The insight I have gained from reading "Flip This Life" has already shown positive results in my relationships. Dr Eve Dreyfus clearly and consicely outlines a "house" for which everyone reading can identify with. I strongly recommend this book to anyone focused on improving the quality of their relationships.
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