In WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO, there is an 8 question Selection Test which explores the reader's inherited Inner Adult and Inner Mate personality and behavorial traits, both explains WHY and identifies HOW these imprinted Inner Couple interactional couple patterns were learned from one's parents in the first 10 years of life. Neither these adult traits nor these couple relationship patterns were a conscious choice. They are the results of a Psychogenetic trance.

Most relationships are a result of transgenerational family imprints which is what Psychogenetics is all about. Actually your problems have been around a lot longer than you think. Indeed while your conscious mind was searching for a PERFECT MATE, your unconscious imprint was searching for a PERFECT MATCH. Following its established pre-imprinted imperatives, your unconscious mind rejected some partners and selected others for you, regardless of whether that particular partner could help you live happily ever after or not. You may have gotten involved with the wrong type over and over again, gotten into the same unsolvable revolving arguments and had one relationship after another dissolve without ever knowing what happened or why one or both of you changed so much after you got married or became parents.

WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO contains numerous proven exercises to help you, the reader, erase your inherited negative imprints and re-imprint positive attraction, selection and interactional patterns so you can reverse the unhappy relationship pattern you are already in with your current partner or stop repeating the same mistakes in mate selection. The Psychogenetic Sysem in the book will show you how to locate and deactivate the hidden landmines left over from your parents' relationship wars, and stop 'things that go boom in the night.' The approach can also help you change your imprint if you are single now so you will automatically be attracted to the right type of partner next time and be able to interact in more successful ways than before.

One of the best uses of this book is as a pre-marital guide especially for people who are always attracted to the wrong person or whose relationships keep turning out badly. It will explain what 'chemistry' really is and how to change the type of person you are attracted to so that you can fall in love with someone who is good to you and for you, and not the same old type that is bad to and for you.

Now you can find out BEFORE you get involved with a potential partner what your relationship will be like AFTER you two get involved or married. And you can also predict BEFORE you have children if that step will improve or ruin your couple relationship. You can know ahead of time what type of parents each of you will be. Take the guesswork out of it.

If you are already in a relationship or married, WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO can not only help you understand the unconscious imperatives in your imprinted Inner Couple relationship pattern that forced you to pick the partner you did, but locate and deactivate the hidden landmines that have caused the trouble between you, and the imprinted trance-ferences that produced the changes in you and your partner's personality AFTER you get married and became PARENTS. The insights are amazing and the instructions on how to reprogram your relationship are specific and effective. Finally, here's a way to SOLVE your relationship problems instead of DISSOLVING one relationship after another.

DON'T JUST GET INVOLVED WITH YOUR PARTNER, GET EVOLVED!

8 of 8 found the following review helpful:

grt but alot of participation required  Oct 28, 2006
By Andy "Aspe Andy Female"
This book is certainly very good and very different then any other self help book on the market. However, to gain from it you must be willing to do it's total workbook component to it which is a lot of the book. I usually like or love books like that if there really good ones however, this one requires you to be able to get assistance from atleast 2 parents and 1 previous or ex husband, wife, or significant other. Not only that but the more group help you get with this very possibly the more this book will likely help you. It also forces you to remember alot of your past so if you don't and don't have relatives to remember it for you I don't recommend this book. The advice in it could be unnusual and right but most of it is given based on your grt workbook participation. There is more then a few inventories/tests in here. Plus, it's pricy. The other good thing is most of the advice you can rarely if ever see elsewhere so the author obviously did her homework and research.So unlike most self help books this book isn't at all simple but that's what makes it so unique and such a benefit to read!

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Couples Counseling Dream Book  May 11, 2001
By Robert N. Hoerner
As a social worker who specializes in couples counseling, Anne Teachworth's book has helped me make new insights and associations in my practice. Her connection from current adult relationships with spouses/partners to childhood relationships with that individual's parents is a stroke of genius. I literally am better able to predict and possibly prevent problems in couples' relationships because of Anne's book. I strongly recommend this book to anyone in the field of couples' counseling as well as those individuals interested in self-help. It should be a must read for any graduate program specializing in relationship counseling, especially pre-marital since the Selection Test in the book is accurately able to predict BEFORE a couple gets married, how their relationship will be after. Bravo Anne and thank you!

5 of 6 found the following review helpful:

Hits the relationship nail on the head.  Aug 10, 2002
By Lenny Ravich
This is a deeply serious book. It is a guide on how to not end up opting for the poisonous mates which cause us harm, physically and mentally. It hits the nail on the relationship head by going deeply into our own family roots to see how we are scripted from birth to choose the mates we do. A must for anyone in, or thinking of entering into a relationship.

Lenny Ravich,
TelAviv, Israel

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AN AMAZING, UPLIFTING BOOK!  Feb 02, 1999

Thank you Anne Teachworth for writing the only relationship book that makes any sense. I've read almost every book on the market and WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO is the only one with actual tools that work and ideas that can be applied to any situation.

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